What do sex education and psychedelics have in common? Both need to be approached without shame or guilt. Drawing inspiration from the Burning Man community (as a 10-time visitor) for both getting rid of sexual shame and her work in the field of psychedelics, our guest – Dr. Lea Lis – works to promote a “No Shame” lifestyle. From running her psychedelic treatment center in the Hamptons to helping parents navigate sex talks with their children, Dr. Lis wants everyone to be their authentic selves. We sit down to talk about her new book “No Shame: Real Talk With Your Kids About Sex, Self-Confidence, and Healthy Relationships", but whether you have kids or not, it's about owning your own sexual values and living life shameless.
“And in life, you always have to focus on the pearls. Like, no matter what's happened to you, you can always find the pearls of it, and you focus on those. Otherwise, you're gonna live your life and misery.”
Dr. Lea Lis is known as the "Shameless Psychiatrist." She is a medical doctor who is a double board-certified Adult and Child Psychiatrist, and has been working with families since the beginning of her psychiatric career. She wrote a book called "No Shame: Real Talk With Your Kids About Sex, Self-Confidence, and Healthy Relationships" (2022) as a guide for parents as they seek to help their children through the maze of sexuality and intimate relationships in the 21st century. She has spent more than a decade as a psychiatrist working with parents and children in almost every imaginable type of family, and believes that children thrive in loving and respectful environments. It’s that simple—and that complicated. Her goal is to help all parents raise strong, secure, and resilient children who become strong, secure, and resilient adults—an aspiration that resonates across the lines of identity and sexuality. Dr. Lis recently opened Hampton Insight Institute (HII), a private practice that offers Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP) in Southampton, New York. HII provides psychedelic therapy for people suffering from different disorders, such as depression, anxiety, and post traumatic stress disorder.
Show notes:
Introducing double board certified psychiatrist- Dr. Lea Lis
How Burning Man has influenced her work
Dr. Lis’ thoughts on Ketamine Therapy
Zoom therapy vs. in-person treatment
What are shame and guilt?
Some examples of shame – Weight and Height
Living a “No Shame” lifestyle
Creating compassionate discussions about sex with children
How cultural hypocrisy affects us
Different parenting styles – authoritarian, permissive, neglectful
Other topics of major shaming between parents and children
How culture and socioeconomic status affect shame
The use of Ketamine as a way of treating shame
Cognitive reframing with your children
How parents can teach honesty and integrity
Is giving kids money a disincentive to creating contributing members of society?
Reach out and look for psychedelic practitioners in your area
Links and references:
Psychedelic Wisdom – Dr. Richard L. Miller
Psychedelic Medicine – Dr. Richard L. Miller
No Shame – Dr. Lea Lis
Roland Griffiths Interview on Mind, Body, Health, and Politics
Tall Girl (Netflix)
The Year of Living Danishly – Helen Russell
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The Shameless Psychiatrist- Dr. Lea Lis