Awakened Con-Sensuality
Awakened Con-Sensuality
Announcing the release of my latest book, *Freeing Sexuality*
Dear Listeners,
I am excited to announce the release this week of my latest book, Freeing Sexuality: Sex Workers, Psychologists, Consent Teachers, and Polyamory Experts Speak Out, based on a series of interviews with "sexperts” on this program over the past several years.
I hope you will buy the book—for yourself or as a gift—and consider leaving me an honest review on Amazon. At the very least, please read my “afterword” – reproduced in full below, which offers my diagnosis of our worldwide pandemic of neuroto-genetic psychosexual disorders.
There have been numerous times in my life when I've been accused, not without good reason, of wanting the last word. This being one of those times, I offer you some of my thoughts on Freeing Sexuality...
My intention in creating this book was to make a sociopolitical contribution to freeing sexuality from its historical—and present—place as a weaponized force. I myself see sexual repression as nothing less than a psychophysical virus that has yielded a worldwide pandemic of neuroto-genetic psychosexual disorders.
Looking back on these conversations with sexperts who have all taught me so much and left me with so much food for thought, my larger takeaway is the painfully glaring reminder that sex, with its supernatural power, is—like money, with its deified power—another activity in which females are demonically subjected.
From a tactical perspective, the fight for female sovereignty requires a full-court press. The direct relationship between the male/female orgasm gap and the financial gap must be deeply considered. Men are still holding the power. Sex is power, but money trumps sex as a form of power because money can buy sex.
In the name of the quest for sovereignty, women will be best served by bringing their sexual power to the very edges of a new frontier with extraordinary bravery and creativity. The battle for female sovereignty is more urgent than ever at this time in history because, as we all will soon be forced to realize, we face extinction by our own doing–whether through industrialization, nuclear war, or any of the other horrors we've placed in our own path. As an experimental species on this planet, we have, to a certain extent, failed to live together harmoniously on our planet and our history is one of constant warfare and deprivation. As I write this, battles are waging around the world. People are dying in wars and from lack of food and water. And, our failing species has little time left to redeem itself before robots move into their developmental place in history. This will occur as soon as we are able to download all the information contained in the human brain onto a chip which can be installed into a robotic body. These brainy robots will then discover how to download human consciousness and they will have it all. Robots will have human information and cognitive processing as well as consciousness. From another perspective, one might say we humans have succeeded for by downloading our information, our cognitive processing, and our consciousness we have become immortal.
On computer chips, we will live forever. We can literally say "we are in the chips." At that point, we will go the way of the Neanderthals. But until then, there is much work we can accomplish to redeem ourselves. There is still time to live as a worldwide collaborative species, and I put forth that the females need to lead the way.
When females attain equal power, our prospects for living collaboratively in our remaining time as a species will dramatically improve. I say this so boldly because the data show that males are nine times more likely to commit murder than females. This is de facto evidence that our health, education, and general welfare will be better served when females have equal power. We are only just emerging into the light after spending the last several millennia enveloped in sexual darkness.
This darkness has been perpetrated by power-hungry religious institutions and the men who have stewarded their relentless campaign to vilify, suppress, and commandeer human sexuality for their own gain. Sadly, the vast majority of our species has throughout history been relegated to stumbling blindly through a haze of distorted sexuality. Our urges mutilated by a guilt that has metastasized into inter-generational trauma, we now exist as veritable strangers to the most fundamental aspect of our nature.
We have, on so many levels, become disordered, and thus the majority of us suffer from Hypocrisy Induced Neurosis and Post Traumatic Sexual Stress Disorder.
How is it possible to harbor such vehement hostility towards the activity to which we owe our very existence? Sex is encoded into us for procreation and, as an incentive for us to continue to perpetuate ourselves, it is one of the most exquisite of all human sensations. So what shall we make of any God who would begrudge us for simply enjoying sensations that the same God is alleged to have built into us, and that precipitated our entrance into this world?
As much attention as I've given these questions, I still can't begin to fathom a satisfactory answer.
At the end of the day, I can only sigh and admit that I don't know. But here's what I do know: just as we have done with our home, our planet, so we have done with the garden of delights bestowed upon us that we refer to as our sexuality. In both cases, we have taken a gift of unequaled proportions and degraded it. We have waged warfare and killed, contaminated our oceans, raped our forests, and besmirched our sexuality.
It is time for the greatest change in the way we relate to the gifts of our home, our bodies, our senses.
If there is heaven on Earth, it resides in ecstatic pleasure anchored in authentic intimacy, with another person. It can even be achieved through a healthy, shame-free solo release.
How do more of us get to that exalted place? I'm not sure I have the answers, but I have endless questions. This book is, at heart, a series of questions—questions I put out into the ether before being fortunate enough to receive such gracious, thoughtful answers from such a lovely group of people. Of course, I have more questions. I look at those posed in this book as an invitation to clarity to come knocking on our window.
We heal ourselves when we open ourselves up to conversation about sex, when we are vulnerable. We must allow ourselves to talk openly—everywhere, and with mutual dignity, respect, kindness, and love—and peel away the layers of secrecy, lies, doublespeak, and shame.
Let us speak openly about sex, share our thoughts and feelings, free ourselves from the straightjackets of our puritanical ancestors, and fully embrace our complete selves as sexual beings.
I mean to be taken literally when I say that our collective survival depends on getting in alignment with all aspects of ourselves, including these desires that have been demonized for too long. By weaving together our physical and empathic capabilities into a globally-minded consciousness, we can reach a state of awakened con-sensuality that, I would posit, is the true Garden that Mother Nature intended for us.
Whether or not we ever get there remains to be seen, but I believe we touch the Divine when we aspire to this ideal. It's absolutely worth it—and, besides, you will have a good time trying.
It is my wish that your time with Freeing Sexuality is of value in expanding your thinking and feeling about your own sexuality, and about human sexuality in general.
Golden Light,
Richard
Book Summary
Fascinating Interviews with 20 Experts Ranging from Clinical Psychologists and Researchers to Sex Workers and Polyamory Educators
Exploring sexual customs, beliefs, practices, and identities from a wide variety of perspectives, Dr. Miller shares his fascinating interviews with 20 experts ranging from clinical psychologists and researchers to sex workers and polyamory educators. We learn from sex therapists, relationship experts, and tantric sex teachers, such as Dr. Lonnie Barbach, Dr. Stella Resnick, Katherine Rowland, and Diana Richardson, about the importance of communication, how to keep sensuality alive, and how to generate fulfilling and sustainable intimacy in relationships. Looking at sexual identity and non-monogamy, we hear from Dr. Ritch Savin-Williams on sexual identification and gender fluidity, Sumati Sparks on open relationships and polyamory, Janet Hardy, author of The Ethical Slut, on sexual freedom, and Annie Sprinkle and Beth Stephens on the possibilities of ecosexuality.
Revealing the inner workings of the sex industry, we hear from current and former escorts and sex workers on the stigmas and dangers of sex work and the need to decriminalize it, including Norma Jean Almadovar, former LA policewoman and current president of the prostitute’s union Coyote. Dr. Ogi Ogas, author of A Billion Wicked Thoughts, speaks about using data science and computational neuroscience to uncover true statistics about our sexual desires. We hear from Paulita Pappel on porn as a mirror for society, Faith Jones on escaping a sex cult, Maeve Moon on recovering from sexual trauma, and Dr. Laura McGuire about the broad impact of teaching consent.
Validating the extraordinary range and diversity of our sexual thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, the author gathers voices that help us free our sexuality from the past, accept our natural urge for physical pleasure, and open us up to sexuality as a power for health, healing, and happiness.